Life after the knot has indeed been busy. A little bit of extra responsibilities thrown in and quite a lot of work related travel, and the lack of Internet at home made it all the more difficult for me to log in. Ok, so now am done with my travels for a while and we even have Internet at home. Never realized how much it meant to be connected.
So, married life goes on, without a hitch. I am enjoying it and so is she, I assume. Before I got married, one of my worst fear was that I would be married to someone who was nagging and annoying. These are among the few things I cannot tolerate for long. I would have nightmares of someone going "yap yap yap yap blah blah blah blah" or even "do this, do that, why you doing this, why you doing that, do it this way" and so on. Now seriously, how do you find out something like this before you are married? No way was i going to ask Rush if she is the nagging type. Well, if she was, as if she was going to say, "Yes dear, I am the nagging and annoying types". The only way would be to figure out during your courting days. So, all the time we spent before we were married, I saw absolutely no signs of nagging. How cool. But, don't we see the things we don't like to see, usually after marriage?
So now we are married, and trust me when I say it, our married life is full of nagging. But wait, it's not her who nags. Sigh. It's me. Yes, pathetic me is a big time nagger and I never realized it. Worst examples happen in the kitchen. I nag when she tries to cook. I have to tell her how it's done. Of course, I believe I am the expert right? If she puts in two spoons of sugar, I have to correct her by saying it is probably one and three quarters, just because I have to. Since she pointed it out, I have felt like this strict school teacher with a bamboo cane, who stands over a poor student working on his math problem, waiting to spot the first mistake so that he can strike hard on the knuckles. Yes, that is how I am, unfortunately and Rush, bears the worst of it. She does put up with it most times, but yes, I know that her patience has a limit too.
The irony of it all. My worst fear was having a partner who would be exactly like what I never knew I was. It really is true that we will really hate and despise something so much because we ourselves carry those very traits we hate so much. Most of the times we are unaware of it, but if we really explore, we will identify it. So anyways, that's the story of how I turned out to be the nagger in the marriage.
So, married life goes on, without a hitch. I am enjoying it and so is she, I assume. Before I got married, one of my worst fear was that I would be married to someone who was nagging and annoying. These are among the few things I cannot tolerate for long. I would have nightmares of someone going "yap yap yap yap blah blah blah blah" or even "do this, do that, why you doing this, why you doing that, do it this way" and so on. Now seriously, how do you find out something like this before you are married? No way was i going to ask Rush if she is the nagging type. Well, if she was, as if she was going to say, "Yes dear, I am the nagging and annoying types". The only way would be to figure out during your courting days. So, all the time we spent before we were married, I saw absolutely no signs of nagging. How cool. But, don't we see the things we don't like to see, usually after marriage?
So now we are married, and trust me when I say it, our married life is full of nagging. But wait, it's not her who nags. Sigh. It's me. Yes, pathetic me is a big time nagger and I never realized it. Worst examples happen in the kitchen. I nag when she tries to cook. I have to tell her how it's done. Of course, I believe I am the expert right? If she puts in two spoons of sugar, I have to correct her by saying it is probably one and three quarters, just because I have to. Since she pointed it out, I have felt like this strict school teacher with a bamboo cane, who stands over a poor student working on his math problem, waiting to spot the first mistake so that he can strike hard on the knuckles. Yes, that is how I am, unfortunately and Rush, bears the worst of it. She does put up with it most times, but yes, I know that her patience has a limit too.
The irony of it all. My worst fear was having a partner who would be exactly like what I never knew I was. It really is true that we will really hate and despise something so much because we ourselves carry those very traits we hate so much. Most of the times we are unaware of it, but if we really explore, we will identify it. So anyways, that's the story of how I turned out to be the nagger in the marriage.
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