One can never say that one has learnt it all. There is absolutely no limit for knowledge and in the same way, there is no limit for how much we can learn out of life. We can be on our death bed as still say that we have learnt something new today. Such is life. Any lesson that we learn easily or anything that has been handed to us on a shining silver platter, may never be the important lessons. The most important lessons are learnt the hard way and it is important that we pay attention to these lessons that come our way in the most unexpected manner. The world is not going to end if we fail to learn them or take notice, but we may end up paying a price. Here a few things that I have learnt in my close to 28 years of living.
We are born good
No one is born with the intention to do harm or evil and it is the circumstances and ones environment that makes someone what they are. Some traits may be irreversible but its unfair to think that he/she was born that way. In our daily life we come across many people who cause us harm, pain or even suffering. Their early environment in no way justifies their actions, but for us it takes great courage and understanding to be able to think beyond a persons actions and look at the person as any other individual. It may not even reverse the harm that has been caused on us, but it is probably the first step in being able to forgive. A difficult lesson to follow or even comprehend. If only we were all able to look beyond a persons actions, the world would have been a better place. Try anyway.
Shit Happens
Lets accept it. Bad things happen to everyone and they are sure to keep happening. It doesn't matter who we are or where we are. It doesn't matter how religious we are or how evil we are, bad things do happen to all of us. Religious people will say that we are being tested by God, an evil person will probably find someone to blame and sometimes even put the blame on God and have all the more reason to blame God. As for someone who doesn't believe in God, well, I wonder who they blame it on. I believe that things happen to us just because we are at the wrong place at the wrong time. Imagine a very religious person who lost a loved one in an earthquake. Now what kind of a test was that? Its no ones fault that he/she lost someone, and I feel that its really unfair to ask the question, "why did God let this happen?" Why? Because God didn't let it happen, that's why.We get some comfort in passing the blame on to someone and that's why we find it so difficult to move on. So yeah, shit happens and we have no one to blame. Again, its very difficult and hard to practice, but we have to move on.
It All Comes Back
I have never really understood how the cycle of karma works so wonderfully, but it does. By mentioning karma, I am not referring to rebirth, but I mean the life we are living now. If we do harm to someone, it comes back to us tenfold. Try doing a good deed and that too will come back to us in a bigger package. We all get what we deserve and having said that, I am a very firm believer that life is fair. It sure is. We can whine all we want about something we don't have or didn't get and that someone else has, but the hard truth is, we did not get it because we did not deserve it or need it. We may never get all that we want, but we may get what we need. This is however only possible if we are able to give what we have within our ability. So next time you think about doing some harm to someone, no matter how small it is, remember that it is going to come back to you pretty soon.
Be Nice On Your Climb
It is human nature to be able to reach the top of a ladder. No one wants to be below anyone else and be shat upon. Through out our life we are constantly trying to climb. Some of us succeed and some of us dont. For those of us who do succeed, it is very important to be really nice to the ones below you on the ladder, because once you have reached the top, there is only one way to go. I can never forget this one line that says, "Be nice to people you meet on your way up the hill. You will meet them again on your way down."
The Important Person Is You
We all have some narcissism within us. I think it is important to have a little of it, but too much of it and people wont care much for you then. So with the little narcissism that we have, it is important to understand that we are important. If not to anyone else, then to ourselves. At times we have to learn to put ourselves first. Being selfish once in a while is necessary because one can ever make you feel the way you deserve to, other than you. If we cannot learn to value ourselves first, we will never be able to value another person for what they are truly worth. The most important person in your life is not your friend, partner or dad or mom. It's you.
Returns May never Be Equal
There are so many relationships we maintain with people in our daily life. It can be the basic relationship we maintain at work with our co-workers and it can also be the relationship we have with our parents, siblings, partner or friends. What ever it is, I believe that we must give it due importance, and even a 100%, but it is important to remember that the returns will never be what we expect. This is applicable to any relationship we maintain. Parents give their lives for their kids. They lose sleep, spend valuable time and money and in other words give a 100% to bring up their kid. As children ourselves, can we honestly say we have given back what was spent on us? That in no way means that we as parents shouldn't give it all for our kids. The same goes with our partner and our friends. We sometimes go out of our way to do things and it is important to do these things without expecting the same in return, because if you do, you are in for disappointment. We sometimes give and give without getting something back, but that's ok. Give because you love the person and not because you want the same back. Who knows where it will go. Sometimes you may just keep giving without receiving and sometimes we give for a while and we stop.
Who knows what I may learn tomorrow. I am pretty sure I have learnt a lot more, but I just cant remember all of them. Well, maybe if I don't remember, it probably isn't really worth remembering.
We are born good
No one is born with the intention to do harm or evil and it is the circumstances and ones environment that makes someone what they are. Some traits may be irreversible but its unfair to think that he/she was born that way. In our daily life we come across many people who cause us harm, pain or even suffering. Their early environment in no way justifies their actions, but for us it takes great courage and understanding to be able to think beyond a persons actions and look at the person as any other individual. It may not even reverse the harm that has been caused on us, but it is probably the first step in being able to forgive. A difficult lesson to follow or even comprehend. If only we were all able to look beyond a persons actions, the world would have been a better place. Try anyway.
Shit Happens
Lets accept it. Bad things happen to everyone and they are sure to keep happening. It doesn't matter who we are or where we are. It doesn't matter how religious we are or how evil we are, bad things do happen to all of us. Religious people will say that we are being tested by God, an evil person will probably find someone to blame and sometimes even put the blame on God and have all the more reason to blame God. As for someone who doesn't believe in God, well, I wonder who they blame it on. I believe that things happen to us just because we are at the wrong place at the wrong time. Imagine a very religious person who lost a loved one in an earthquake. Now what kind of a test was that? Its no ones fault that he/she lost someone, and I feel that its really unfair to ask the question, "why did God let this happen?" Why? Because God didn't let it happen, that's why.We get some comfort in passing the blame on to someone and that's why we find it so difficult to move on. So yeah, shit happens and we have no one to blame. Again, its very difficult and hard to practice, but we have to move on.
It All Comes Back
I have never really understood how the cycle of karma works so wonderfully, but it does. By mentioning karma, I am not referring to rebirth, but I mean the life we are living now. If we do harm to someone, it comes back to us tenfold. Try doing a good deed and that too will come back to us in a bigger package. We all get what we deserve and having said that, I am a very firm believer that life is fair. It sure is. We can whine all we want about something we don't have or didn't get and that someone else has, but the hard truth is, we did not get it because we did not deserve it or need it. We may never get all that we want, but we may get what we need. This is however only possible if we are able to give what we have within our ability. So next time you think about doing some harm to someone, no matter how small it is, remember that it is going to come back to you pretty soon.
Be Nice On Your Climb
It is human nature to be able to reach the top of a ladder. No one wants to be below anyone else and be shat upon. Through out our life we are constantly trying to climb. Some of us succeed and some of us dont. For those of us who do succeed, it is very important to be really nice to the ones below you on the ladder, because once you have reached the top, there is only one way to go. I can never forget this one line that says, "Be nice to people you meet on your way up the hill. You will meet them again on your way down."
The Important Person Is You
We all have some narcissism within us. I think it is important to have a little of it, but too much of it and people wont care much for you then. So with the little narcissism that we have, it is important to understand that we are important. If not to anyone else, then to ourselves. At times we have to learn to put ourselves first. Being selfish once in a while is necessary because one can ever make you feel the way you deserve to, other than you. If we cannot learn to value ourselves first, we will never be able to value another person for what they are truly worth. The most important person in your life is not your friend, partner or dad or mom. It's you.
Returns May never Be Equal
There are so many relationships we maintain with people in our daily life. It can be the basic relationship we maintain at work with our co-workers and it can also be the relationship we have with our parents, siblings, partner or friends. What ever it is, I believe that we must give it due importance, and even a 100%, but it is important to remember that the returns will never be what we expect. This is applicable to any relationship we maintain. Parents give their lives for their kids. They lose sleep, spend valuable time and money and in other words give a 100% to bring up their kid. As children ourselves, can we honestly say we have given back what was spent on us? That in no way means that we as parents shouldn't give it all for our kids. The same goes with our partner and our friends. We sometimes go out of our way to do things and it is important to do these things without expecting the same in return, because if you do, you are in for disappointment. We sometimes give and give without getting something back, but that's ok. Give because you love the person and not because you want the same back. Who knows where it will go. Sometimes you may just keep giving without receiving and sometimes we give for a while and we stop.
Who knows what I may learn tomorrow. I am pretty sure I have learnt a lot more, but I just cant remember all of them. Well, maybe if I don't remember, it probably isn't really worth remembering.
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